Spiritual and relationship expert, teacher, counselor, advisor, speaker, and writer James Gray Robinson


            Sweet Jesus there is so much fighting and violence on the planet these days. Unfortunately much of it was financed or created by United States Intelligence Agencies, otherwise known as US. We do not need any more warriors to fight for peace. What we need are warriors of peace. We must instill the qualities of courage, wisdom, love and kindness into our children and ourselves if we are to survive the Armageddon that is raging around us. As one fatally injured three-year-old Syrian boy told his doctors, “I am going to complain to God about you.” We must rediscover the principals of reconciliation, harmony, cooperation and empathy and apply them to all who are dispossessed, injured, angry and vengeful. If not, we all will suffer the consequences of our failure to find the path of peace.

            The path of peace begins within each one of us. Everyone has a soul that can be refined and enlightened, and everyone has a path of peace to follow. No one can be left behind. We are here for no other purpose but to find the path to peace, realize our divinity and find our enlightenment. The path of peace begins in the heart and goes from there into our world. We must find the peace that exists in our heart and leave behind the constant battles of our minds. The famous Bhagavad Gita is all about the conflict between right values (Pandavas) and selfish desires (Kurus) that will always battle in our minds. We must leave that battle behind and discover the peace beyond all understanding that lives in our hearts. We do not need anything to begin; heaven exists right where we are.

            We must let go of the illusion of separation. We are all one; we all came from the same source. Isn’t it ironic that most of the warfare is now being waged between tribes who were once one? Cousins are fighting cousins; enemies were families not so long ago. This is exactly as predicted by the Bhagavad Gita 5000 years ago. We must return to the unity and common source that created us and remember that it is this illusion of separation that causes all suffering in the world. We have to remember that we either grow or die. To kill one another over religious nonsense or forgotten wrongs is not growth; it is death.

            Do not compare yourself to anyone one. There is nothing to compare. We are each unique into our self and any perception of have and have not is simply an illusion created by those who would wish to control us. Always keep our minds clear of any thoughts of lack or less than. Be a warrior and keep our minds clean and peaceful. The battles are won and lost between the ears.

            We all have forgotten to breathe. When we breathe in, we must expand to the ends of time and space, when we exhale we bring all of it back into us. When we breathe in, we need to inhale all of the energy of heaven and its promises of peace and joy. When we exhale, we need to release all hatred, evil, lust, greed, selfishness and fear. When we breathe properly, we have no time or desire to harm another human being. When you breathe, feel the rise and fall of the tide and the waves within you. All life exists within you. Life does not exist anywhere else.

            If we fight, we must fight to clean our water, air and land and protect Mother Earth. It is insane to pollute the only source of life, we will not survive for long. Everything we do must be with the goal of protecting our habitat. Not only are we one with each other, we are one with our planet. Water, earth, mountains, air and oceans combine to keep us safe. We must return the favor.

            Be mindful. Be aware of life, plants, animals and each other. Study each other intensely. If we are aware of all of who we are, we could not conceive of doing violence against each other. Each one of us is an incredibly complex and multidimensional being. Who is so arrogant to destroy such beauty and miracles of life? Fill our hearts with seeds of compassion and understanding. Let each one germinate from the muck and mire of negativity around us like the lotus blossom arises from the stagnant waters. Fill yourself with the power of wisdom and enlightenment.

            The Path of Peace requires focus, vigilance and discipline. However, it is much easier to travel the Path of Peace than to destroy all that we know. We all believe that we are justified in taking life when the time comes, but that is an illusion. Life is eternal and never dies. We have just forgotten.


Spiritual and relationship expert, teacher, counselor, advisor, speaker, and writer James Gray Robinson


            I read an article about how one college’s students hates another college and its rival student body. This arises out of a sports rivalry spanning over one hundred years. My initial reaction was wondering how in the world we are going to have peace on this planet when even simple friendly sport competitions provokes hatred in the Bible belt. This is not merely a frivolous academic animosity; it breaks into violence from time to time. I observe with great compassion that there is something seriously ignorant and misguided if is this is what the institutions of higher learning are creating. It is rather obvious to anyone that looks that both sides to this emotional violence acts and behaves like mirror images of each other. When one side loses, the other side is “obnoxious or poor losers.”

            If one were to add family, ethnic and religious resentment to this emotional soup, it is no wonder that there is genocide occurring on this planet as I write this and you read it. I wonder if I am contributing to this suffering. If I believe the ancient wisdoms and teachings, if I can perceive it, I am creating it.

            When we say “I” followed by an emotion, we usually follow it with an object of that emotion. If we say “I love”, we usually direct that towards another person or idea, such as “I love you” or “I love America”. Similarly, when we say “I hate”, we direct that emotion towards someone or something, such as “I hate you” or “I hate intolerance.”

             The truth is there is no object for our emotion outside of us, because ancient wisdom states that all perception is projection. We perceive that there is something “out there” to project our emotions at, when it is only us projecting that emotion at us. In other words, when we say “I love you”, we mean “I love me.”  When we say, “I hate you”, we mean, “I hate me.” There is no “you”, there is only “me.” When we say, “I miss you,” we mean that “ I am missing me.” When we say, “I want/need you,” we mean “I want/need me.”

            We have to understand that what we project out into the world will manifest. When we get into the whole “I want…” manifestation illusion what we are projecting out into the world is our lack. When we buy into the “Secret of…” nonsense we are only creating more of what we are attempting to fill, i.e. unhappiness. Grace only comes to those with open and happy hearts, not to those who are trying to keep up with the Joneses. When we say, “I will not be happy until I have [fill in the blank]”, we project unhappiness and lack into the world. When we say “I don’t like [fill in the blank]”, we project rejection and denial into the world.

           The ultimate truth is there is no “you.” When we say, “I love you,” we mean “I am love.” When we say, “I hate you,” we mean “I am hate.” This, of course, is all an illusion that we create to make us realize that we are everything, there is nothing that is not us. The Muslims have a powerful prayer, “La ilaha ilallah,” which means, “There is nothing that is not God.”

            If we want peace, we have to apply it to our lives. It can’t start somewhere else; it has to start in our hearts. Whenever we think unkind or violent thoughts about someone or some situation, someone dies in a far away land on the other side of the planet. This is known in quantum physics and metaphysics as the “butterfly effect.” Thus, when a butterfly beats its wings in Japan, a hurricane is born in the Atlantic. Everything is connected, and to deny this is to live in ignorance. So when we think that someone is an “asshole,” this will have a very real consequence somewhere in our world and ultimately will come back to us, because we are really labeling ourselves with this epithet.

It would be so amazing if we stopped competing with each other and started cooperating instead. Peace might actually break out all around the planet.



Spiritual and relationship expert, teacher, counselor, advisor, speaker, and writer James Gray Robinson


               There’s been an effort in the last few decades to explain conflict in relationships by stereotyping men and women in gender roles. One popular stereotype is that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, and therefore speak different languages and experience the world in different ways. To attempt to explain why we have conflicts by blaming gender differences is a gross simplification. The reason is much deeper. Any solution for conflict in relationships must include a radical shift in thinking about gender and individuals in society as a whole. I propose a new, dynamic solution based on matriarchal principles that would change the focus from ‘how we are different’ to ‘how we can cooperate’ and solve many issues facing “our” planet and us.

                Modern society bases its beliefs about individuals from a patriarchal frame of mind. The belief that “I am different from you” can be a competitive notion, based on stereotypes along gender, racial/ethnic and national lines, all with competitive prejudices. We train our children from infancy based upon gender. Girls get pink accessories; boys get blue. Girls get dolls and dresses; boys get footballs and guns. These subtle yet powerful messages become planted in the subconscious minds of children, places them in limiting boxes and shape their beliefs, determining how they will eventually think and behave. Exceptions aside, these lines limit our children in thinking about their world.

               Imagine the potential of a genderless society, at least from a societal standpoint. I propose children be raised with any clothes and toys that appeals to them and makes them happy, and that their talents and abilities be supported and nurtured. Exercise and education would be geared towards team building and the satisfaction of conquering obstacles, not each other. We have to start at the most basic prejudice in our society, addressing a common practice where people are labeled and categorized. One example of this is a wide spread belief that women should not be in the military or active combat. The irony of this prejudice is not that we are protecting women, but that since women probably would find a way to avoid fighting in the first place, the military would cease to exist if women ran it.

               I strongly believe that women have a natural maternal instinct that protects and nurtures life and does not seek to end it. However, as a male, I too have an instinct to protect life and not end it. Imagine a world where the peoples of warring countries had a common goal, like making the Middle East the Garden of Eden again. Imagine the impact on the environment if people started cooperating and shared resources and technology, to enable everyone to live a better life instead of destroying our world for individual profit.

              We have to start cooperating and stop competing with each other. It is the patriarchal model that has created the world we live in today. Competition is based on comparison, and comparison is a useless exercise. There will always be someone better or and worse than the one comparing. What we’re lacking as a culture and a society is a model of cooperation based on matriarchal principals of communication, cooperation and nurturing.

              A shift to a matriarchal society may be the only answer for world peace and prosperity. And, as women continue to become more influential in world business and politics they have a perfect platform to change the world. Men, bless their hearts, have been trained for thousands of years to compete and kill. The role of mother and nurturer has always fallen on women. It’s time for women to start to speak up and stand up to men to change the way this world works. Women do not have to confront men; rather they need to show men how to cooperate instead of competing. If a discussion becomes an argument, cooperation has been lost. We must end this notion that “behind every great man is a great woman.” Every woman must stand beside men and everyone one else if we are to eliminate war, hatred, famine, disease and prejudice.

              Imagine a world where corporations and nations freely share their resources with each other. And a world where our children are nurtured and encouraged to develop their skills, rather than memorize useless facts and take standardized tests. It’s not important who was the “first” of the class. What is important is helping that “last” person be happy. Darwinism doesn’t work with humans. It’s not survival of the fittest. It’s for the survival of everyone that we must shift our focus to endure. Don’t buy into the patriarchal system of competition–it hasn’t worked. Imagine a world where we all behave like we’re from the same planet– nurturing one another, while sharing, and cooperating to save it.