Spiritual and relationship expert, teacher, counselor, advisor, speaker, and writer James Gray Robinson


           As we travel along our various paths to divinity, many people want to know how to develop their psychic skills and intuition. There are many theories about how to do this, you can even spend a lot of money going to psychic workshops and energy classes which advertise that you can instantly become psychic. The truth is that we are all psychic, we are constantly communicating with each other subliminally. The trick is how to cut through all of the mind chatter which drowns out our intuitive messages that we are constantly hearing through our subconscious.

            First, you have to believe that you have the ability to be psychic and that you are being guided at all times. When we doubt our abilities we are telling the universe that we don’t want to be guided, that we are afraid, and that we would rather rely on our logical ego mind. How many times have you had the “feeling” that you should do something but rejected it because you couldn’t see the outcome or felt that it didn’t make any sense? This is your mind telling you not to trust your psychic abilities and only rely on logic and what you know. Our psychic abilities often are outside of what we “know” and we have to trust in that gut feeling or intuition to expand our lives and consciousness.   

            Similarly, we have to listen. This means getting still and calming the mind chatter which fills our heads and distracts us from our hearts. Meditation is very good for this, as well as walking in nature and noticing everything that is around you. Nature has its own way of quieting our minds and allowing us to hear messages and intuitions that are constantly playing under the surface. Watch flowing water and allow the sounds of the water to wash away our chatter even if it is only for a few minutes. You can get one of those recycling fountains to put in your office or home to allow you to still your mind and listen to your intuition.

            Resentment and grudges are guaranteed to have you stuck in your ego mind and cut off the flow of information from the divine and the universe. Whatever we resent or resist is an illusion. We don’t remember events, we remember the last memory we had of the event. This can be far different from what actually happened over time so it truly is an illusion that our mind creates to keep us distracted from our connection to the divine. The ego mind is deathly afraid of letting go of its control over us and will do everything to prevent us from relying on our psychic abilities. This includes making you think that this blog is ridiculous and a fairy tale. Whatever we resent or resist must be released into the divine. We can’t do anything about it anyway, so let the divine take care of it.

            Fear also cuts off our ability to hear the subconscious messages we are receiving from the divine. Fear and love can’t coexist at the same time, so we have go into our heart and look at the world through heaven’s eyes. When we allow love to consume us, we only are concerned about helping others. Our perceived problems block our psychic abilities so we have to make a choice whether to develop our psychic abilities or be drowned in fear. Ninety percent of what we worry about never happens, so we can instantly let go of ninety percent of our anxiety by simply realizing that it is a waste of time. Let it go, let it go.

            Send out positive vibrations into the universe. We are all antennaes for divine love and support. When we are positive, grateful and full of joy we are telling the universe to send us the means to be happy and abundant. The problem with most “secret” methodologies for attracting wealth is that the message being sent is one of lack. So be happy with what you have and the universe will send you messages on how to have more of that happiness.

             Pay attention. Many times we have random thoughts which have nothing to do with the matters at hand and these are messages which we ignore. When you get these thoughts, write them down and return to them later. It is truly surprising what you may discover when you get calm and relaxed and then reread the message. It may make total sense later.

            You can use tools. Many tools such as cards, scryvening mirrors, message boards or even the famous “8 ball”  can be quite helpful in cutting through the “veil” which seperates the ego mind from our intuition. These messages come through in unlimited ways, we just have to open our minds and hearts to receive them. Enlightenment comes from every angle.





Spiritual and relationship expert, teacher, counselor, advisor, speaker, and writer James Gray Robinson


           We all hear about our intuition. It is that little voice in our head that says: “no no turn right!” Or it might say: “two desserts is enough!” Or sometimes it says: “relax, be happy!” The problem with many people is that they are so distracted with getting what they want or keeping what they have that they can’t hear that small voice. Sometimes emotions have taken control of our life and we are afraid, angry, guilty or ashamed and can’t hear that small voice. In order to develop our intuition we need to get quiet and listen for that voice. Here are a few techniques that will absolutely connect you to your intuition.

            TAKE OFF YOUR WATCH AND TURN OFF YOUR PHONE. Yes, take off your watch and live your life without being a slave to time. Turn off your phone periodically during the day. When we constantly monitor the time we are replacing our intuition with a machine. This is true for telephones as well. Most smart phones has voice mail which will let you know someone called. You also don’t have to be checking your smart phone for the time because you aren’t wearing your watch. When you take off your watch and turn off your phone, you can start using your intuition for when stuff is supposed to happen and when you need to leave for that appointment. For some people this may help them be in time, because they obviously don’t pay attention to the time anyway. Anything you can do to be “in time” rather than “on time” will hone your intuition. Being “on time” is when you are a slave to time, constantly checking to see what time it is. When you are “on time” you know when it is time to do something. You will start to “feel” time, rather than have to check your watch. It is very cool.

            USE YOUR NON-DOMINANT SIDE. If you are right-handed, use your left hand for everything. Use your non-dominant hand to write, to type, to punch buttons, brush your teeth or open doors. When you use your non-dominant hand, you activate the right side of your brain and this will make that small voice more noticeable. It also has the effect of making your psychic abilities stronger. Woohoo! It is also beneficial to write with your left hand in a journal whatever you desire in life. The longer you can use your non-dominant hand while writing will reinforce the manifestation of your desire. I won’t get into manifesting at the moment, but when you write with your non-dominant hand what you want, this is a bridge step for bringing your dreams into the physical world. What you are doing is bringing the thought into 2 dimensional space on the paper. Then you can bring the 2 dimensional construct into the physical 3 dimensional world. It is not as hard to bring something from 2 dimensions into 3 dimensions as it is to bring it from our thoughts into 3 dimensional physical reality. The other benefit of writing something over and over with your non-dominant hand is that you have to really focus on doing that so it becomes a meditation and you stop thinking about all of the things that are distracting you in the first place. You may even discover after writing something a few thousand (yes, thousand) times with your non-dominant hand that your intuition will kick in and you will realize that you don’t really want that desire anyway.  How often have you really prayed for something to happen or to get something and then discover that wasn’t what you wanted after all? This is a great way to determine whether your desire is something you really want or not.

            WALK BACKWARDS. This one will definitely improve your intuition as well as improve your self-image. How, you wonder? Think of it this way, when you walk backwards at work or in public, you will have to let go of all of the limiting beliefs you have about being like everyone else. Now if you are in a setting where this could be dangerous, please don’t do this. Common sense before spiritual sense as Derek O’Neill would say. However, the whole notion of stepping outside of your comfort zone and doing something outrageous will not only develop your intuition it will develop your appreciation of doing things outside of the box. And it is outside of the box that you want to get to.

            So give these techniques a try and let me know how your intuition develops. I guarantee you that you will start “feeling” more and “thinking” less. Not only will this make you more relaxed and calm, you may even discover who you really are.


Spiritual and relationship expert, teacher, counselor, advisor, speaker, and writer James Gray Robinson


          Many of us are affected by a terrible affliction, a disease that causes suffering and misery in billions of people. The most amazing symptom of this disease is that most people don’t even know that they have it. Other symptoms include headaches, stress, restlessness, heartburn, ulcers and other digestive issues, loss of sleep, shortness of breath, memory loss, low self-esteem, substance abuse, and absent-mindedness.  It is a condition loosely described as “obsessive thinking.” This is not to be confused with obsessive-compulsive disorder, although I believe the two are linked.

          As I trudge the path of happy destiny, I oftentimes notice my mind churning endlessly about minutiae, known as “pole-vaulting over mouse turds.” Endlessly asking “what if,” my mind reviews and replays every event in my life to squeeze every possible nuance and possibility out of each memory, no matter how insignificant or overwhelming it might be.  I analyze everything into an exhaustive state, as if chewing on each memory will change it or make me happier. As I engage in this totally useless activity, I beat myself up second guessing my past actions or thought processes.

          As if constantly dissecting my memories were not enough, I also fantasize about how various scenarios will play out depending on what I say or do. I obsessively fantasize about how things can go wrong and what I can do to prevent it. This is taking worrying to a whole new level.   I also describe it as “worst case scenario thinking.”

          Thousands of years ago our ancestors’ biggest concerns were which end of the food chain they found themselves. It made a life or death difference whether people could perceive and analyze warning signs such as dinosaur poop or raptor tracks. Being ready to instantly react to signs of danger were defense mechanisms that helped prolong life. The problem is that the dangers of being eaten no longer exist, but the defense mechanism continues to run and has evolved into obsessive analysis of what is being perceived around us.

          When we engage in “worst case scenario” thinking, we perceive everything as a potential threat and continually analyze this data in order to hopefully overcome these perceived threats. We project an infinite number of possibilities and permutations into the distant future, worrying about how life will turn out or avoiding possible pitfalls. Our brains act like computers who are continuously running on a “loop” with no possible conclusion to the program that is running. When we over analyze and think too much, we cut ourselves off from two of our most powerful survival tools, instinct and intuition.

          To make matters worse, when we engage in these thinking patterns, oftentimes we get so wrapped up with what is happening in our minds that we forget to breathe. Some people actually stop breathing for long periods of time as their analytical brains take over. When this happens, oxygen ceases to flow to our frontal lobes and we fall into crisis mode known as “monkey brain.”  At that point we only have two choices, to run away or fight. Neither choice is needed in today’s world, although it was quite handy when we found ourselves face to face with a saber-toothed tiger.

          Analytical thinking is useful when planning a war or programming a computer. It sucks when it comes to dealing with relationships and our personal issues. The more we think about our past, and analyzing our actions, etc., the more we suffer. The more we engage in “worst case scenario” thinking, the more we suffer. The more that we wish things were different, the more we suffer. The more we compare ourselves to others, the more we suffer. The more we second-guess ourselves, the more we suffer. The more we beat ourselves up, the more we suffer.

          The more we suffer, the more stress we create in our lives that in turn creates the medical problems listed above. We are literally “thinking ourselves to death.” So what do we do? How do we think less and feel more? There are some very simple exercises to heal this disease. First, detach from your thoughts. The mantra is “I am not my thoughts.” A good meditation is to sit in front of an empty chair, and imagine yourself in that chair looking back at you. The more you can visualize yourself sitting in that empty chair looking at you, the easier it will be to detach to your thinking.

          Second, get some exercise. It is impossible to engage in analytical thinking while you are gasping for breath. The endorphins that are released in your brain as a result of exercise are powerful chemicals that create a euphoric feeling and slow down obsessive thinking.

          Third, eat healthy foods. When your body is happy, you do not need to engage in survival thinking and your mind will slow down. I notice that eating unprocessed foods (raw) makes me feel much better about myself and slows down my thinking. When I am on the road eating truck stop food, my mind goes berserk.

          Fourth, focus on your breathing. Breathe long and slow breaths at all times. Yogi masters tell us that we are given a finite number of breaths in our lives. When we breathe long and slow breaths, we live longer happier lives.  Fifth, drink more water. Dehydration causes the mind to go into crisis mode. Sixth, practice gratitude and forgiveness of yourself. You do not have to forgive anyone else, only yourself. Be grateful for your life and the people in it.

           I notice that my life is much different when I stop over thinking. Events that used to create great melodrama in my life now are simply stepping stones and building blocks to more and more happiness. I am healthier, weigh less, and smile more. People like to be around me and even invite me to visit. They are glad to see me and invite me back. They even laugh at my jokes.

          The amazing thing is that whatever is going through my mind creates my reality. As I reduce the number of negative thoughts running through my mind, my life becomes more and more positive. Rather than fretting over whether the glass is half empty or half full, I drink the water and fill up the glass again. This is true abundance.